Why Do We Exist....? Continued....2

Now question comes why a person feels that way?
One of the reasons is the the Defense Mechanism Denial.
Denial is the Ego Defense Mechanism that simply disavows or denies thoughts, feelings, wishes or needs that cause anxiety.One is not able to accept the truth which threatens Ego and can be anxiety producing. The first reaction comes - This is not true. The state of mind at that time is - This can not happen to me !
This is an operation that works on an unconscious level completely to deny that which can not be dealt with consciously to protect the Ego from threatening incidences.

Why Do We Exist.....? Continued.......

Thinking further, some more issues made me ponder again....!

When someone ends his life, after being lost in love, Is it really because the person thinks he can't live without the person, whats the purpose of my living now.... so why n for whom I shud live....???
I wonder Is it really cause that you are left alone, feel lost, find no reason, loose all hopes n find no motive to live without that person, and so much so that you decide to end your life !!!
I say this is not the reason. One decides to end one's life not becus of this reason, Rather its the failure which one is unable to accept. One can't take the rejection positively. Its the feeling of being rejected, feeling of being failed. Our ego is hurt and we are not ready to accept /face the failure. Don't ve the strength of accepting failure wid grace n dignity. And is depressed to end life.

One may not agree with me, but ve a glance around you, how many people attemt suicide when they loose someone close( Be it any relation) to Death ??? Perhaps No One !!!
We know death is inevitable, we can rationalize this truth. We dont blame ourself for it, we don't take it as our failure. We accept it as destiny, and move ahead in the course of life facing the challenges.
Then why cant we do same when there 's a heart break, why cant we accept it as destiny, and learning from experiences, emerge as a much stronger person to deal with the coming challenges of life. Why block our vision of life by one person,,, there's always infinte more to explore n enjoy in life.
Hoping n praying for poor souls to be strong and accept the realities of life with grace.

WHY DO WE EXIST....???

The young generation of ours is becoming very vulnerable , recently I got to know about 2 suicidal attempts among my knowns, one was lucky, survived; but the other one was not. He left this world at the age of just 17, leaving loads of of miseries and question marks for his parents. Reasons behind both these attempt to end life were very meager. One scored badly in exams, and other had a heartbreak.

These incidences left me wid many blanks...!!! Are these sufferings severe enough to end one's life??? The level of tolerance of miseries is different for every individual. Some may cope with the stressors upto the acute extent, while some may give up at slightest of pain. Humanatarian and Existential Psychologists say Man should be allowed to use his free will, they reject any kind of determinism from any external factor.
They are free to live, so they should be free to die also. But how many want to die.. its only those who out of depression choose death over living. Otherwise there are uncountable no. of those who are suffering from severest of miseries, but still surviving. Thou all know that Death is inevitable, still everyone wants to keep it at the farthest end, its the ultimate desire to touch infinite.
Where as those who commit/attemt suicide perhaps loose all hope in life. I dont feel that their reasons for such decisions were because that life wasnt worth living for them anymore, rather because they were weaker souls/selfs, who were not able to cope up with, to face the hard core realities n struggles of life as well they were lacking a strong social support system in the face of their family and friends.
Escapism is always easier than meeting challenges. By ending one's life, one gets relieved from his miseries, but leave unanswred questions/never ending problems for his loved ones. Do these people feel that the reason for their living has ended with that one failure, be it of anything.

If so then it leaves me with a question.... what's the purpose of existence? why we are living...? What are the reasons for survival...? These kinda painful incidences keep coming in one's life, so SHALL WE END OUR LIFE.....???

Ai Waqt Rukja....!!!

We think very often that if gone times can come back, and we can live it in a different way. I ve found myself brooding many times,,,, IF I wud ve done that way at that particular time,,,,If I wud ve not taken that decision that time,,, If I wud ve chosen differently than what i did at a certain time in life...... and these thoughts alws remind me few lines from a song of DDLD......
Ai Waqt rukja , Tham ja , Thehar ja,,, Waapis zara daud peeche..........

Sometimes I wish,,,, Kaash Waqt ruk sakta, peeche laut sakta.... haalanki jeevan aage chalne ka naam hai.. and we all know whatever is gone, is gone, time never comes back..... still the desire to go back to old times never ends.
It's not that I regret any of my decisions in life, but as it always seems that perhaps The Road not Taken had been more attractive, uselful, and appropriate than the one we took on the paths of life.

Surfing Web from the Office !!!

Many people who have I-Net facility in their offices, which is very common in many corporate offices, surf the web for their personal purposes like e-mails, chatting, blogs, shopping etc. from the official network. Employers hardly used to bother about it. Lately many employers are getting stricter about Internet access for other than official work and web surfing for leisure at work. Many American companies are really on top of this. The computer forensic examiners are hired in companies to investigate computer misuse.

Computer security experts say there are four reasons why employees block site access -

1. Security - The companies are most concerned about security and that is why sites such as MySpace are blocked. There are numerous sites that can install adware or spyware onto a computer. Also there are online storage and file-sharing sites, that can be used to share proprietary information.
2. Legal liability – Employees that are allowed to surf indiscriminately can expose their employers to legal problems. If employees see pornography, hate sites, extreme religious sites and so forth, that is a lawsuit waiting to happen.
3. Productivity – Having employees spend their work day posting to personal blogs, chatting, planning wedding and vacations, shopping online, researching family genealogy, day trading, horoscopes, participating in online dating services or loosing money on gambling sites, keeps employees from doing the jobs they were hired to do.
4. Bandwidth problem - Workers who go online or download programs may create a bandwidth problem and bog down the speed of network operations. Downloading music or movies slows down the system. If employees are messing around on sites other than work, that could slow down the resources of others who are really trying to work, so companies just say our work computers are for work.

Some companies are putting up caution messages, when employees log on to their system, it says : "This system is for authorized business use only. Unauthorized access or activity is a violation of law. All system activity is subject to monitoring for security purposes". Expect more employers to block more web portals such as AOL, Yahoo and MSN. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------(Adapted from Hindustan Times)

The Other Side of the Story/ Employees’ perspective –After reading this article, I interacted with few of my friends who has I-Net access at the office and surf web other than office work during working hours, and sought their opinion. As per them,

1. Net surfing in between the official work comes as a refreshing experience. It breaks the monotony of work.
2. They also feel that it enhances Net-working skills.
3. As well they are able to connect to their friends which is very difficult otherwise in this so much busy working schedule of theirs.

In my mind, one more question arises ----- How Ethical it is ?

Looking fwd to the opinion of worthy jatlanders….. what do you say…?

You are most welcome with your views - Pro as well as Con.