Today I was going through Prez Dr APJ Abdul Kalam's Autobiography again, n savoured the lines of wisdom once more, then felt like sharing with all. So here'r some quotes from the book (with slight modifications). Hope who have gone thru the book , wont mind reading them again.
"We are all born with a divine fire in us. Our efforts should be to give wings to this fire and fill the world with the glow of its goodness."
" With faith, you can change your destiny."
"To strive to control thy thoughts and thy mind and, through these, to influence thy destiny."
"To succeed in life and achieve results, you must understand and master three mighty forces- desire, belief, and expectation.''
" Let God be your hope, your stay, your guide and provide the lantern for your feet in your journey into the future."
" If come across failure, accept your destiny and go ahead with your life. What you are destined to achieve in future is not revealed now but it is predetermined. Forget this failure, as it was essential to lead you to your destined path. Search, instead, for the true purpose of your existence. Become one with yourself and surrender yourself to the wish of God."
"Once your mind stretches to a new level, it never goes back to its original dimension."
"Those things that hurt instruct!"
"Bread baked without love is a bitter bread that feeds but half a man's hunger,"~Khalil Gibran. Those who cannot work with their hearts achieve but a hollow, half-hearted success that breeds bitterness all around.
"All reasonable men adapt themselves to the world. Only a few unreasonable ones persist in trying to adapt the world to themselves. All progress in the world depends on these unreasonable men and their innovative and often non-conformist actions."
Tuesday, May 15, 2007
Sunday, May 13, 2007
HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY
Happy Mother's Day to all the mothers and the would be mothers.
Thou' all days belong to mothers, and the bond between a mother and child is too strong to restrict itself to merely superficial celebrations on one such day. But I feel this isn't just about the celebrations n gifts etc., but surely this one day gives the opportunity to express our love for our mothers n thanking her for being there always supporting us. No doubt we love our mothers unconditionally but not always be able to say so. Feelings n emotions if expressed rightly are the sweetest, I believe.
As Karan Johar said in Kabhi khushi........, "It's all about loving your parents" And its never too late to say so....so I take this opportunity to say "I love you Mom".. for all the love you showered always,, for complying with my wants n wishes thou they might nt be reasonable alws, for always giving the best of lot, whatever it was, n above all for the delicious food made by you which has no match !
Jewish proverb says, God could not be everywhere and therefore he made mothers. I do not know (by experience) what it's to be a mother, Hope to experience the same some day. "AMEN "
Thou' all days belong to mothers, and the bond between a mother and child is too strong to restrict itself to merely superficial celebrations on one such day. But I feel this isn't just about the celebrations n gifts etc., but surely this one day gives the opportunity to express our love for our mothers n thanking her for being there always supporting us. No doubt we love our mothers unconditionally but not always be able to say so. Feelings n emotions if expressed rightly are the sweetest, I believe.
As Karan Johar said in Kabhi khushi........, "It's all about loving your parents" And its never too late to say so....so I take this opportunity to say "I love you Mom".. for all the love you showered always,, for complying with my wants n wishes thou they might nt be reasonable alws, for always giving the best of lot, whatever it was, n above all for the delicious food made by you which has no match !
Jewish proverb says, God could not be everywhere and therefore he made mothers. I do not know (by experience) what it's to be a mother, Hope to experience the same some day. "AMEN "
Friday, May 11, 2007
Hierarchies of Life.....!!! Thank God, there's No limit
Life is a hierarchy....we keep moving step by step. Growth is also a process of these hierarchies - be it physical, social, emotional, mental, or personal growth.Or call them "paaydaans" of life. One goal attained, we set our aspirations for another aim and mostly a higher one. As the human needs are arranged in a hierarchy, first come the basic biological needs; they satisfied, next come safety needs, we want to preserve for the future; once they are met, we look for love n belongingness, the social n emotional needs. Majority of people reach to this level, next step is of self esteem,,,, when we feel secure in all these lower levels,,, we maintain our self esteem higher than the social esteem. And on the highest level comes, the need for Self-Actualization , i.e. the realization of the potential to the maximum. Every one has a high potential, which hardly one utilizes. Mostly we are entangled with these lower level needs of physical n materialistic grabbing and dealing with personal and social relational issues. Very few people try to explore their selves to the most depths and then to bring it to the reality of action. There are two processes necessary for self-actualization: self exploration and action. The deeper the self exploration, the closer one comes to self-actualization.
There's no limit to the personal growth, Sometimes I wonder, just imagine if some limit is set on the exploration, on the growth, how would be the life??? Most people, if not all, wud be able to reach that limit, then what…… ??? How saturated one wud feel if the capacity to think, to imagine is marked,,… what wud you do if you cant think beyond that capacity……!!! May be there’ll be lot of anxiety, unrest, discontent, haphazardness, n restlessness.
Thank God, there’s no Limit.
There's no limit to the personal growth, Sometimes I wonder, just imagine if some limit is set on the exploration, on the growth, how would be the life??? Most people, if not all, wud be able to reach that limit, then what…… ??? How saturated one wud feel if the capacity to think, to imagine is marked,,… what wud you do if you cant think beyond that capacity……!!! May be there’ll be lot of anxiety, unrest, discontent, haphazardness, n restlessness.
Thank God, there’s no Limit.
Friday, May 4, 2007
IQ, EQ & SQ
For long, the world gave much importance to Intelligence Quotient. In mid-1990s, findings in neuroscience and psychology stressed the importance of Emotional Quotient (EQ). In 2000, however, a new dimension to human intelligence was introduced, i.e. Spiritual Quotient (or SQ). Spiritual intelligence is the ultimate intelligence. This is the intelligence used to solve problems of meaning and value. "Is my job giving me the fulfillment I seek?" "Am I relating to the people in my life in a way that contributes to their happiness and mine?" Answers to these questions determine whether we will find happiness or not. IQ and EQ are inadequate in such issues.
On a spiritual note, EQ involves freeing ourselves from our own emotional baggage and the conditioning of our early life and the expectations of others. Such shedding of 'stuff' is a prerequisite of any spiritual journey. Because then only we become aware of ourselves, and 'why' of the feelings and needs of others. Also, it helps realizing those values which we had heard about—like acceptance and unconditional love.
Spiritual Intelligence is about compassion and creativity, self-awareness and self-esteem, flexibility and gratitude. Thus what were once espoused by the great philosophers of the likes of Swami Vivekananda are once again being exhorted by the modern day corporate world.
SQ is about the growth of a human being. It is about moving on in life. About having a direction in life and being able to heal ourselves of all the resentment we carry. It is thinking of ourselves as an expression of a higher reality. It is also about how we look at the resources available to us. We realize that nature is not meant to be exploited. Ultimately, we discover freedom from our sense of limitation as human beings and attain "moksha".
SQ is about pondering over life's purpose. Just being in touch with that question is fulfilling. As we move along the path, deeper levels of self get unfolded, leading to fulfillment. Humans are essentially spiritual beings, evolved to ask fundamental questions. "Who am I?" "Where am I going?" "What do others mean to me?" It is an ability to answer questions like these that lead people to personal growth workshops.
Spiritual intelligence also addresses the need to place one's life in a shared context of value. The transformative power of SQ distinguishes it from IQ and EQ. IQ primarily solves logical problems. EQ allows us to judge the situation we are in and behave appropriately. SQ allows us to ask if we want to be in that situation in the first place. It might motivate us to create a new one.
SQ has little connection to formal religion. Atheists and humanists may have high SQ while someone actively religious may not. It’s more concerned about the humanist point of view. Of course, this is culture specific, with Westerners responding to ideas of 'God' and Buddhists and Hindus responding to certain symbols.
The awakening of our spiritual intelligence may be a time of great joy and meaning and may pave a way for personal growth and a feeling of being in control. We use spiritual intelligence to transform ourselves and others, heal relationship, cope with grief, and move beyond conditioned habits of the past. To develop high SQ, each person needs to approach the task according to his/her personality.
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On a spiritual note, EQ involves freeing ourselves from our own emotional baggage and the conditioning of our early life and the expectations of others. Such shedding of 'stuff' is a prerequisite of any spiritual journey. Because then only we become aware of ourselves, and 'why' of the feelings and needs of others. Also, it helps realizing those values which we had heard about—like acceptance and unconditional love.
Spiritual Intelligence is about compassion and creativity, self-awareness and self-esteem, flexibility and gratitude. Thus what were once espoused by the great philosophers of the likes of Swami Vivekananda are once again being exhorted by the modern day corporate world.
SQ is about the growth of a human being. It is about moving on in life. About having a direction in life and being able to heal ourselves of all the resentment we carry. It is thinking of ourselves as an expression of a higher reality. It is also about how we look at the resources available to us. We realize that nature is not meant to be exploited. Ultimately, we discover freedom from our sense of limitation as human beings and attain "moksha".
SQ is about pondering over life's purpose. Just being in touch with that question is fulfilling. As we move along the path, deeper levels of self get unfolded, leading to fulfillment. Humans are essentially spiritual beings, evolved to ask fundamental questions. "Who am I?" "Where am I going?" "What do others mean to me?" It is an ability to answer questions like these that lead people to personal growth workshops.
Spiritual intelligence also addresses the need to place one's life in a shared context of value. The transformative power of SQ distinguishes it from IQ and EQ. IQ primarily solves logical problems. EQ allows us to judge the situation we are in and behave appropriately. SQ allows us to ask if we want to be in that situation in the first place. It might motivate us to create a new one.
SQ has little connection to formal religion. Atheists and humanists may have high SQ while someone actively religious may not. It’s more concerned about the humanist point of view. Of course, this is culture specific, with Westerners responding to ideas of 'God' and Buddhists and Hindus responding to certain symbols.
The awakening of our spiritual intelligence may be a time of great joy and meaning and may pave a way for personal growth and a feeling of being in control. We use spiritual intelligence to transform ourselves and others, heal relationship, cope with grief, and move beyond conditioned habits of the past. To develop high SQ, each person needs to approach the task according to his/her personality.
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Thursday, May 3, 2007
IQ versus EQ
All are familiar with the term IQ (Intelligent Quotient) which has become so much of public parlance that the term is greatly distorted and many a times used as malicious abuse that such and such person has no IQ (Akal). On a scientific note, IQ is the measure of cognitive abilities, such as the ability to learn, to understand, to think rationally and to deal with new situations. A person's IQ greatly predicts what he shall make out of life. So far so good.
But Psychologists have lately been focusing attention on EQ (Emotional Quotient) which is a measure of your emotional intelligence, or your ability to use both your emotions and cognitive skills in your life. The Greek Philosopher Aristotle had a recipe for handling relationships smoothly. You must be able; he said “to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way”. Psychologists call such self-control “Emotional Intelligence”. It is a major element of satisfying life.
Emotional Intelligence refers to a combination of skills. These include empathy, self-control, self-awareness, sensitivity to the feelings of others, persistence, self-motivation, intuition, creativity, flexibility, resilience, coping, stress management, leadership, integrity, authenticity, intrapersonal skills and interpersonal skills and above all, ability to maintain hope and an optimistic outlook in the face of disappointments and difficulties - all those traits that are prerequisites to make success in life.
People who excel in life tend to be emotionally intelligent. On the other hand, the costs of poor emotional skills can be high. They range from the problems in social life to poor physical health. A lack of emotional intelligence can ruin careers and sabotage achievement. Perhaps the greatest toll falls on children and teenagers. For them, poor emotional skills can contribute to depression, eating problems, unwanted pregnancy, aggression, and violent crime.
Recent research shows that your emotional quotient (EQ) might be a better predictor of success than your intellectual quotient (IQ), despite an assumption that people with high IQs will naturally accomplish more in life. People with higher EQ are more likely to do well in life as it defines how good one feels about oneself and how tuned they are to themselves. If you are on a ride of high self-esteem then you will be more likely to perform better than others suffering lowered self-esteem. As simple as that! Sometimes it has been seen that individuals with higher EQ and not higher IQ necessarily make more success in their lives in comparison to individuals who have higher IQ but lower EQ. It may be because EQ prepares a person to lead his peers, take decisions and nurture better relationships.
Moreover, unlike IQ, your emotional quotient is not an inborn trait rather is a skill that can be taught and facilitated in individuals who deviate significantly from the norm in their intellectual intelligence (IQ). Sometimes it is found that highly intelligent children can not develop bonds with their peers and may feel left out from the group. As a result, such children may enter their adulthood with weak self-esteem and defensive behavior designed to ward off uncomfortable and unrewarding personal interactions. Loneliness and feelings of isolation are common features of highly gifted people who have not been taught to bridge the emotional and social gulf between themselves and the majority population. Thus EQ is much more imporatnt for success in life rather than IQ and the best part is that EQ can be fostered. With proper nurturing of EQ, gifted children can be brought into mainstream while children with lower IQs be fostered with abilities to march ahead in life.
Despite EQ being a more reliable predictor of academic achievement than is the IQ and can be learned, yet, it is neglected in our education both at home and at school to the peril of young students. Thus, need of the hour is to make it integral part of curriculum since in today’s consumerist world, children often seem to lack the ability to empathize, negotiate and cooperate, and also suffer from lack of optimism and feel hopeless about the future due to the demands and pressures that pull them in various directions. This void has potentially negative consequences, first on their academic achievement and second on their interpersonal relationships which ultimately have dire consequences with regard to their psychosocial development and lead to behavior problems, alienation, and even aggression and violence. Hence, inclusion of nurturing EQ in education is important so that these young children grow up into confident adults.
But Psychologists have lately been focusing attention on EQ (Emotional Quotient) which is a measure of your emotional intelligence, or your ability to use both your emotions and cognitive skills in your life. The Greek Philosopher Aristotle had a recipe for handling relationships smoothly. You must be able; he said “to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way”. Psychologists call such self-control “Emotional Intelligence”. It is a major element of satisfying life.
Emotional Intelligence refers to a combination of skills. These include empathy, self-control, self-awareness, sensitivity to the feelings of others, persistence, self-motivation, intuition, creativity, flexibility, resilience, coping, stress management, leadership, integrity, authenticity, intrapersonal skills and interpersonal skills and above all, ability to maintain hope and an optimistic outlook in the face of disappointments and difficulties - all those traits that are prerequisites to make success in life.
People who excel in life tend to be emotionally intelligent. On the other hand, the costs of poor emotional skills can be high. They range from the problems in social life to poor physical health. A lack of emotional intelligence can ruin careers and sabotage achievement. Perhaps the greatest toll falls on children and teenagers. For them, poor emotional skills can contribute to depression, eating problems, unwanted pregnancy, aggression, and violent crime.
Recent research shows that your emotional quotient (EQ) might be a better predictor of success than your intellectual quotient (IQ), despite an assumption that people with high IQs will naturally accomplish more in life. People with higher EQ are more likely to do well in life as it defines how good one feels about oneself and how tuned they are to themselves. If you are on a ride of high self-esteem then you will be more likely to perform better than others suffering lowered self-esteem. As simple as that! Sometimes it has been seen that individuals with higher EQ and not higher IQ necessarily make more success in their lives in comparison to individuals who have higher IQ but lower EQ. It may be because EQ prepares a person to lead his peers, take decisions and nurture better relationships.
Moreover, unlike IQ, your emotional quotient is not an inborn trait rather is a skill that can be taught and facilitated in individuals who deviate significantly from the norm in their intellectual intelligence (IQ). Sometimes it is found that highly intelligent children can not develop bonds with their peers and may feel left out from the group. As a result, such children may enter their adulthood with weak self-esteem and defensive behavior designed to ward off uncomfortable and unrewarding personal interactions. Loneliness and feelings of isolation are common features of highly gifted people who have not been taught to bridge the emotional and social gulf between themselves and the majority population. Thus EQ is much more imporatnt for success in life rather than IQ and the best part is that EQ can be fostered. With proper nurturing of EQ, gifted children can be brought into mainstream while children with lower IQs be fostered with abilities to march ahead in life.
Despite EQ being a more reliable predictor of academic achievement than is the IQ and can be learned, yet, it is neglected in our education both at home and at school to the peril of young students. Thus, need of the hour is to make it integral part of curriculum since in today’s consumerist world, children often seem to lack the ability to empathize, negotiate and cooperate, and also suffer from lack of optimism and feel hopeless about the future due to the demands and pressures that pull them in various directions. This void has potentially negative consequences, first on their academic achievement and second on their interpersonal relationships which ultimately have dire consequences with regard to their psychosocial development and lead to behavior problems, alienation, and even aggression and violence. Hence, inclusion of nurturing EQ in education is important so that these young children grow up into confident adults.
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