Happiness is a choice we have to make. Its not something we have to look outside.... it lies within the beings.
Happiness in itself can not be a destination but is experienced in the journey of life by those who concentrate on making their contributions to making the world a better place to live. The results is strife in every sphere of life and struggle to find peace. Peace is a prerequisite for progress in any sphere, whether it is emotional, intelligence or spiritual.
Happiness is integral to the well-being. What makes one Happy, the criteria or sources of happiness can be different for diff beings. One of most important index of happiness is Free Will, which hardly people recognize. In this sacrifising, compromising and conforming world of ours, we keep succumbing to others desires always, never recongnizing and trying to exercise our own will.
There are two selves of any being...one his real self - what he's, what he wants, and what he wud like to do given the option ; secondly there's an ideal self - where the individual does what is expected of him. When there's too much of gap between these 2 selves, they lead to disintegration and maladjustment of personality. more the overlapping in real n ideal self, better adjusted n integreted will be the personality.
Freedom to choice should be ones right and he should be allowed to exercise it freely without any pressures.
This kinda freedom to exercise free will will enhance the self and will help to emerge into a happy n healthy being.
Monday, March 10, 2008
Sunday, March 9, 2008
Experiences of Life.....Contd....II
Once I wrote about experiences of life,,,where I talked about successes n failures.... To continue....
Believe me, failures scare you only till you face them. Once you are through them, they fill you with a new energy n courage. Heard the saying, COME WHAT MAY....this kind of strength to deal with situations they provide us. Thou' it is very important to cope with the failures in life. Agreed society ll leave no stone unturned to make you realize that you are "Dharti Ke Bojh"... 'Good for Nothing',,,but its the real test of your strengths, your self confidence. When we face failure for quite a time, self-confidence starts shattering, more so becus the insignificant others around us make us feel more negatively. This whole scenario works as a disease of soul, when you aren't successful for long enough and to worsen it you have such people around you who keep you realizing that you are a loser, you start doubting yourself even though you know this is not your fault. The situation can worsen even more when the guilt comes, and the person developes learned helplessness. Person becomes hundred percent convinced that he's Good for Nothing. And here you loose all your confidence. Don't be scared in such times, and you ll get your confidence back. In such times it is very important to maintain the self belief, to keep believing in oneself, ones potential, his abilities, and the faith that success may be far, may be difficult to attain; but not unattainable. Self-confidence is equally important for success.
Of course you ll face rough weather, turbulence and much more. However, remember never to give up. Keep your head steady n high and march ahead, success will be yours.
Believe me, failures scare you only till you face them. Once you are through them, they fill you with a new energy n courage. Heard the saying, COME WHAT MAY....this kind of strength to deal with situations they provide us. Thou' it is very important to cope with the failures in life. Agreed society ll leave no stone unturned to make you realize that you are "Dharti Ke Bojh"... 'Good for Nothing',,,but its the real test of your strengths, your self confidence. When we face failure for quite a time, self-confidence starts shattering, more so becus the insignificant others around us make us feel more negatively. This whole scenario works as a disease of soul, when you aren't successful for long enough and to worsen it you have such people around you who keep you realizing that you are a loser, you start doubting yourself even though you know this is not your fault. The situation can worsen even more when the guilt comes, and the person developes learned helplessness. Person becomes hundred percent convinced that he's Good for Nothing. And here you loose all your confidence. Don't be scared in such times, and you ll get your confidence back. In such times it is very important to maintain the self belief, to keep believing in oneself, ones potential, his abilities, and the faith that success may be far, may be difficult to attain; but not unattainable. Self-confidence is equally important for success.
Of course you ll face rough weather, turbulence and much more. However, remember never to give up. Keep your head steady n high and march ahead, success will be yours.
Saturday, March 8, 2008
Peak experiences
"Feelings of limitless horizons opening up to the vision, the feeling of being simultaneously more powerful and also more helpless than one ever was before, the feeling of ecstasy and wonder and awe, the loss of placement in time and space with, finally, the conviction that something extremely important and valuable had happened, so that the subject was to some extent transformed and strengthened even in his daily life by such experiences", Abraham Maslow.
Think of the most wonderful experience or experiences of your life--the happiest moments, ecstatic moments, moments of rapture, perhaps from being in live, or from listening to music or suddenly "being hit" by a book or a painting or from some great creative moment, a burst of insight, a betrothal, or the birth of a baby. The mystic experience when individuals usually have experiences in which they literally feel they are floating. They feel very much in tune or at one with the world around them, and almost feel as if they are, for a momentary period in time, part of a different reality.The experience fills the individual with wonder and awe. They have a special flavour of reverance, of humility and surrender before the experience as before something great.Peak experiences are profound moments in a person's life, sudden feelings of intense happiness and well-being. He feels at one with the world and is pleased with it; he or she has seen the ultimate truth or the essence of all things.Accompanying these experiences is a heightened sense of control over the body and emotions, and a wider sense of awareness, as though one was standing upon a mountaintop.
Thou' rare, but If try to look back into your life, you’ll find some such experience in your life, when you certainly would have thought that you are on the top of the world. Would appreciate if you think over n come up sharing your such peak experiences in life… even if one in a life, it must have been worth for a life long memory.
Think of the most wonderful experience or experiences of your life--the happiest moments, ecstatic moments, moments of rapture, perhaps from being in live, or from listening to music or suddenly "being hit" by a book or a painting or from some great creative moment, a burst of insight, a betrothal, or the birth of a baby. The mystic experience when individuals usually have experiences in which they literally feel they are floating. They feel very much in tune or at one with the world around them, and almost feel as if they are, for a momentary period in time, part of a different reality.The experience fills the individual with wonder and awe. They have a special flavour of reverance, of humility and surrender before the experience as before something great.Peak experiences are profound moments in a person's life, sudden feelings of intense happiness and well-being. He feels at one with the world and is pleased with it; he or she has seen the ultimate truth or the essence of all things.Accompanying these experiences is a heightened sense of control over the body and emotions, and a wider sense of awareness, as though one was standing upon a mountaintop.
Thou' rare, but If try to look back into your life, you’ll find some such experience in your life, when you certainly would have thought that you are on the top of the world. Would appreciate if you think over n come up sharing your such peak experiences in life… even if one in a life, it must have been worth for a life long memory.
Tuesday, March 4, 2008
Two Perspectives of Women
Trust and the freedom to chase dreams is the best gift for anyone, but it's still a distant dream for many Indian women.Lemme share with you two different perspectives of women in the form of these poems.
Human nature is such
That if you sit, they'll say, "No, don't sit."
And if you stand, " What's the matter? Walk!"
And if you walk, " Shame on you, Sit down!"
If you so much as lie down, they'll order, "Get up!"
If you don't lie down, no respite, "Lie down."
I'm wasting my days getting up and sitting down.
If I'm dying right now, they speak up, "Live."
If they see me living, who knows when they'll say, "Shame on you, die!"
In fear, I secretly go on living.
------------------------------- Taslima Nasrin
Now the other view -
I'm going to move ahead.
Behind me my whole family is calling,
My child is pulling my saree-end,
My husband stands blocking the door,
But I will go.
There's nothing ahead but a river.
I will cross.
I know how to swim,
but they won't let me swim, won't let me cross.
There's nothing on the other side of the river
but a vast expanse of fields,
But I'll touch this emptiness once and run
against the wind, whose whoosing sound
makes me want to dance.
I'll dance somedayand then return.
I've not played keep-away for years
as I did in childhood.
I'll raise a great commotion playing keep-away someday
and then return.
For years I haven't cried with my head
in the lap of solitude.
I'll cry to my heart's content some
day and then return.
There's nothing ahead but a river,
and I know how to swim.
Why shouldn't I go?
I will go.
---------------- Anonymous
Human nature is such
That if you sit, they'll say, "No, don't sit."
And if you stand, " What's the matter? Walk!"
And if you walk, " Shame on you, Sit down!"
If you so much as lie down, they'll order, "Get up!"
If you don't lie down, no respite, "Lie down."
I'm wasting my days getting up and sitting down.
If I'm dying right now, they speak up, "Live."
If they see me living, who knows when they'll say, "Shame on you, die!"
In fear, I secretly go on living.
------------------------------- Taslima Nasrin
Now the other view -
I'm going to move ahead.
Behind me my whole family is calling,
My child is pulling my saree-end,
My husband stands blocking the door,
But I will go.
There's nothing ahead but a river.
I will cross.
I know how to swim,
but they won't let me swim, won't let me cross.
There's nothing on the other side of the river
but a vast expanse of fields,
But I'll touch this emptiness once and run
against the wind, whose whoosing sound
makes me want to dance.
I'll dance somedayand then return.
I've not played keep-away for years
as I did in childhood.
I'll raise a great commotion playing keep-away someday
and then return.
For years I haven't cried with my head
in the lap of solitude.
I'll cry to my heart's content some
day and then return.
There's nothing ahead but a river,
and I know how to swim.
Why shouldn't I go?
I will go.
---------------- Anonymous
Monday, March 3, 2008
Life & Death
On the Life-Death relationship, few lines -
The reason death sticks so closely to life isn't biological necessaity- it's ENVY. Life is so beautiful that death has fallen in love with it, a jealous, possessive love that grabs at what it can. But life leaps over oblivion lightly, loosing only a thing or two of no importance, and gloom is but the passing shadow of a cloud.
The reason death sticks so closely to life isn't biological necessaity- it's ENVY. Life is so beautiful that death has fallen in love with it, a jealous, possessive love that grabs at what it can. But life leaps over oblivion lightly, loosing only a thing or two of no importance, and gloom is but the passing shadow of a cloud.
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